Dear Maggie,

My husband and I got into an argument the other day, and he said something that really made me mad. He said all I ever do is complain. Of course, I denied it. But then I mentioned it to my sister, and she got all quiet and stopped looking me in the eye. And when I demanded to know what she was thinking she said that I really do tend to complain a lot! I was hurt and offended, but ever since, I’ve been thinking about it and noticing that I really do. When I’m on the phone with my mom, I complain about the kids, and when I’m talking to my husband I complain about my mom, and when I run into people at the grocery store I complain about the prices, or the weather, or a headache, or ...

Well, you get the picture. I don’t when I changed from a fairy positive person into just the opposite, but now that I’ve realized what I’m doing, I’d like to change it. But it’s tougher than it seems. Old habits die hard. Any suggestions?

Best,

Negative Nellie

Dear Nellie (I’m starting by dropping the negative part!)