Dear Maggie,

Several of my good friends plan to go to one of the gang’s house for a get-together one day next week, and they’re all very upset with me because I don’t want to go. It’s a three hour drive from me to where they’re gathering – almost as much for one or two of the others, I might add. And I just simply have things I’d rather be doing at home. I’ve been reading you for awhile, but I couldn’t remember something quite like this coming up before. The friend who lives so far, sometimes does make that drive to come out here, and the others say it’s only fair that we drive out to her from time to time. How do I balance doing what I want with doing what other people think I should?

Signed,

Too Old For This